Dropping like flies, they say......
Those couples who seemed "perfect" in the land of suburbia are heading to divorce lawyers one after the other. I just got wind of one more.....
For the record, this isn't a local couple that I know in "my" suburb.
It is a friend from a city where I used to live when we were both single, clueless and bar hopping every night.
She met Mr. Right on a Friday night after the bar lights went up and the beer goggles were thick. She was 28, he was 40. They had one thing in common...lonliness. He asked her to go to another party with her after the bar closed. I signaled to her with the ole' hand slash across my neck, as in RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.
He wasn't bad looking for an older guy, but my instinct just told me that this guy was not for her.
I was standing right there, next to her...watching her make the biggest mistake of her life.
She went to the party that night, loved his attention and better yet, his money. He was well established and willing to buy her anything to keep her. She was younger than him, but wanted more....of everything. The ring he put on her finger one year later was enough to seal the deal. It was enormous and very real.
At the altar I clearly remember thinking, I give this one five years. Sad, I know. But it is the honest truth.
So here we are....ten years later. They survived five years longer than I predicted.
Now she is 38 and he is 50. I ask her why she is leaving him. "why?" she laughs.
"Because he is boring."
Boredom. Hmmmm. The most common complaint about marriage, yet many of us manage to deal with it and make it more exciting. Marriage can and does have "exciting moments". It just takes a hell of alot more work to keep creating them.
I tell her that maybe she should try new things together, or take a vacation...but nope, her mind is made up. She has already bought herself a new pair of boobs and a new wardrobe. She wants a younger guy, she tells me. A boy toy.
I know this all seems so shallow, sad or even appalling to some, and it is. But uncommon?
No.
I can go to a certain Sushi joint here in my burb on any given Thursday night and I see it all over the place. Bored married people.....dressing up and drinking like they are single and available. Some have even been known to date....so long as their husbands don't find out.
Hey, at least my friend had the decency to get divorced first.
Thursday, March 01, 2007
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6 comments:
I guess that is what he gets for going after girls twelve years younger than him.
Men are stupid. Do they really think that most hot young girls are going to stay with them forever?
When you are in your early twenties and the guy is thirty that is one thing, but a forty year old guy has no business prowling around for a girl in her twenties.
I feel sorry for the guy!
She sounds like a total bitch.
Beffers, your friend needs a reality check. I hope she gets dumped by her boy toys.
Marraige is about love and commitment. People seem to forget the commitment part. I think the rest of us should keep reminding them.
If she is your friend-I would hate to see how you talk about your enemies.
Anonymous,
Sometimes the truth hurts...I write nothing here that I wouldn't tell a friend to her face.
She knows her choice is ridiculously shallow, and that her decision to marry him was a poor one.(I told her then and now)
If being a friend is lying to someone to make them feel better about a bad decision that can harm them, then yes, I failed.
But if being a friend is telling it to them straight to someone in an effort to save them from themselves, then I would say I have been a terrific friend.
If you ask her which it is...she will most certainly tell you that I have been the best friend in the world to her.
She should have listened.
Anonymous,
Don't know what you think was so offensive.
Beffers-you warned her-you told her-and now she is paying the price.
I think I need more friends like you.
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